Thursday, April 24, 2008

Thoughts for Thursday: Social Butterflies

I'll be the first to admit that I am not the best in social settings. I usually get told how "quiet" I am. I find it very hard to open up and just talk to people until I get to know them. Even then I feel like conversations are forced. Which may be the reason I don't have a whole lot of friends. I have a few people that I gab with and consider good friends, but nothing like we do lunch sort of stuff. This may be the reason I enjoy blogging. I can spit it out a lot easier than having a real conversation and may also be the reason I bore you all to tears writing about Peanut Butter, because I don't do much else. I am trying to break out of this, I did go to a crop where I knew no one, except for on a scrapbooking message board. As much as I tried to converse I was still called quiet. I remember being told not to be a pest and not to annoy people when I was a kid. I don't know if this has something to do with it or not. I also have for the most part had mostly males as friends and we know how talkative they can be. I know people who socializing is so easy for. They walk into a room and will introduce themselves and chat away. I sometimes envy them. So are you a social butterfly or are you a wallflower like me?

6 comments:

Michelle Leigh said...

I think I'm somewhere in the middle. I am shy, but not to the point where I am uncomfortable in social situations. I thrive on company and love being with people, but it takes me a while to get to that comfort level. I do have a lot of friends who are women. I have many women in my neighborhood who I spend a lot of time with. I think for me, it is necessary for survival as a SAHM. I wish I were more extroverted, but I think I am a decent mix of both.

Law Student Hot Mama said...

Social whore. Not buttefly, whore. I thrive on attention. I have no idea why as my mom when I was little also told me not to "make a scene." I think it's genetic - either you're an introvert or you're not. I guess I'm one of the "nots." Then again, poor mom also always told me I was "heavy" and yet I'm still obnoxiously extroverted anyway. Ah, well, I never said I wasn't depraved.

Jaime said...

haha... what's funny is that i just commented on another bloggers TFT about how i can't spit it out in a post. that i'm more vocal. HOWEVER, even though i've been a "talker" my whole life, i did have an insurance sales job that took me outside my comfort zone. i had to come up with clever, unforced conversation to promote trust. and now, i'm a lot better at being social and not just talkative.
i hated the job but it taught me sooo much that, i can't look back and hate it!:)
thanks for visiting my blog today!

jessica said...

i have been forcing myself to come out of my shell in social situations, and doing better at it, i used to prefer to be a wallflower. people were scary a little. but once i've talked to them and more comfortable, i become quite the socialite.

Mary said...

I'm a wallflower. I've always been quiet and I've always been one to totally assess a situation before jumping in. Always an observer. My husband, on the other hand, is completely opposite of me. He can talk to anyone! I have a handful of really close friends. I've never been one to have TONS of girlfriends. Just a few close ones. I think I've come out of my shell a little bit more over the years. I think having a child has helped. I often feel like my quietness comes across wrong to people. There are a lot of people that I feel misunderstand me such as my husband's friends, wives/girlfriends.

Cassandra said...

wallflower. But I will talk to the person next to me. People watching is much more fun than "working a room"!