Thursday, April 17, 2008

Thoughts for Thursday: Change and Structure

It maybe the nature of what I do. It maybe the need to control everything, but I don't do change or unstructured things well. At work everything is on a specific schedule, it is all done at the same time everyday and on the days it is scheduled. I have issues when I have to drop Peanut Butter off at daycare before work, because it runs me late and it sometimes puts my eating of breakfast into "count" time, I hate it. I am not as bad as some people at work, who are almost down to the minute. When we plan anything I like to have at least a loose schedule of what is going on, from what time are we leaving the house, to an estimated time of return. I try to keep PB's day the same regardless of if she is at home or goes to daycare. I know she naps from 12-2 at daycare so I try to keep it the same here. J doesn't, he's a fly by the seat of his pants for the most part. He'll make plans to do something and then does something totally different. It drives me insane. If you say are going to the grocery store go, don't stop and clean out the garage for 5 hrs and then decide maybe you should go before they close. I'll get home from work on the weekends and ask if PB has napped yet and I get "no, I don't think she's tired yet." Then I'm fighting her to take one at 3 in the afternoon, and hope she'll go to bed at night. If I know J isn't going to be home for dinner, I will make dinner for PB and I at five, if he is going to be home I usually expect it at 6 and if he's not home I start without him.
Are you a structured, plan it out person, or do you fly by the seat of your pants.

5 comments:

Michelle Leigh said...

I love change. I crave change. That being said, I still like structure to an extent. Being at home, if we didn't have a schedule, we'd all go insane. I think kids need consistency in some form, otherwise they don't function well. We keep a loose schedule, ie. wake up at 7, eat at 7:30, bathe at 9, eat at noon, nap at 2, eat at 6, bed at 7:30 and 8. As far as what we do in between, well that varies by the day.

Driving With the Brakes On said...

I often complain that my life is like the movie "Groudhog's Day" - the same thing day-in and day-out, but the truth is that I like it that way. Both my kids are a bit schedule driven (Cooper much more so than Maren), and I tend to do a lot of what I do to make things consistent for them. Our schedule is a lot like Michelle's - meals, baths, etc. are always the same, and what we do inbetween varies depended on the day.

Apryl said...

I'm a spontaneous planner! lol. I plan, make lists, schedules. But I'm easily distracted from them. Actually I think my planning/list making is just part of my brain...I don't function well without them because I'm VERY scatterbrained, and WILL forget it if it's not written down somewhere!

jessica said...

i really like to know what's going on, i don't have to have things happen at the same time every day or anything, but the way hubby flies by the seat of his pants used to drive me nuts. now we have a sort of happy medium.

conniecl said...

I fly by the seat of my pants most of the time -- with the big picture goal as the guide or plan. Your adversion to change and unstructured things does not come from me! ;)